Three of The Easiest Ways to Manipulate People into Doing What You Want

Three of the Easiest ways to manipulate People into doing what you want are following:

Scaring The Hell Out of You: The Fear-Then-Relief Procedure:

For example: The book The Science of Social Influence details a few experiments that showed this in action. In one, shoppers in a mall were scared by a stranger touching their shoulder from behind. When they turned around, the shoppers found that their assailant was a (supposed) blind man who just wanted to ask the time. After that deflection and relief, someone else—the fake blind man's confederate—asked the targets if they would buy and sign postcards for a political charitable cause. Those who had met the blind man and experienced the fear-then-relief roller-coaster were more likely to do so than the control group which wasn't manipulated.

Making You Feel Guilty: Social Exchange

For example: A co-worker could remind you about that time they bailed you out big time in the past, then use that as leverage every time he/she needs something. Or someone who loaned you money or knows a secret of yours could continually blackmail you into doing what they want (a subject we've covered extensively)

Priming You With a Small Request: The Foot-in-the-Door Technique

Examples: NPR gives an example of a panhandler who asks you for the time, then asks you to spare a buck. By getting you to say yes to one request, you're more likely to say yes to a second one.

Avoiding These Manipulations

Just knowing about manipulative techniques can help you avoid falling victim to them. For the fear-then-relief technique, for example, be on the lookout whenever you feel a surge in negative and then positive emotions. You're more vulnerable at that time to do things mindlessly and at the suggestion of others. Watch out for statements that follow this general formula:Something terrible could have happened to you, but it [didn't/won't]. [Now do this]. These aren't the only ways someone could trick you into saying yes, of course, but they are some of the more common—just keep an eye out, stay on your toes, and you should be able to spot when someone's trying to pull a fast one.

Reverse Psychology Actually Works

Reverse psychology has become an enormous cliché. I think this peaked in 1995 with the release of the film Jumanji. (If you've seen it and remember it, you know what I'm talking about.) The problem is that most people look at reverse psychology in a very simple way. For example, you'd say "I don't care if you want to go risk your life jumping out of a plane" to try and convince someone not to go skydiving. This isn't reverse psychology—it's passive-aggressive. So let's leave that all behind and start from scratch.

If you're going to use logic reversals in your favour, you need to be subtle. Let's say you want your room-mate to do the dishes because it's his or her turn. There's always this approach:

"Hey, would you mind doing the dishes? It's your turn."

But in this example we're assuming your room-mate is lazy and the nice approach isn't going to get the job done. So what do you do? Something like this:

"Hey, I've decided I don't want to do the dishes any more and am just going to start buying disposable stuff. Is that cool with you? If you want to give me some money, I can pick up extras for you, too."

What this does is present the crappy alternative to not doing the dishes without placing any blame. Rather than being preoccupied with an accusation, your room-mate is left to only consider the alternative. This is how reverse psychology can be effective, so long as you say it like you mean it.

Never Talk About the Idea—Talk Around It

Getting someone to want to do something can be tough if you know they're not going to want to do it, so you need to make them believe it was their idea. This is a common instruction, especially for salespeople, but it's much easier said than done. You have to look at planting ideas in the same way you'd look at solving a mystery. Slowly but surely you offer the target a series of clues until the obvious conclusion is the one you want. The key is to be patient, because if you rush through your "clues" it will be obvious. If you take it slow, the idea will form naturally in their mind all by itself.

Let's say you're trying to get your friend to eat healthier food. This is a good aim, but you've got a tough enemy: they're addicted to the Colonel and need a bucket of fried chicken at least once a day. Out of concern you tell them to eat healthier. They either think that's a good idea and then never do anything or just tell you to stop nagging them. For them to realize what they're doing to their body, they need to have an epiphany and you can make that happen by talking around the issue.

To do this you need to be very clever and very subtle, otherwise it will be obvious. You can't just say "oh, I read today that fried chicken is killing 10 million children in Arkansas every year" because that's a load of crap and comes with an incredibly obvious motivation for saying it. If chicken is the target, you need to make chicken seem really unappealing. Next time you sneeze, make a joke about coming down with the avian flu. When you're ordering at a restaurant together, verbally convey your decision to order something other than chicken because you just learned how most chicken is processed by restaurants.

When you've done enough of these things -- and, again, with enough space between them so that it doesn't seem like odd behavior -- you can start being a little more aggressive and stop going with your friend to get fried chicken. You can also take proactive steps to improve your own health and tell your friend 1) what you're doing, and 2) how well it's working for you. After a few weeks, if your friend hasn't decided to reconsider his or her position on frequent fried chicken, you can casually mention it and they should be much more open to having a real discussion.

Exam Phobia - Symptoms, Reasons, Solution

“I like to study and I like the subjects and my class performance is also very good but I don’t like to take part in the examination. Why is it necessary?” In  student life it was common to not want to face an examination and it still is.

Mostly all students are afraid of examination. This fear is a common picture among students and the feelings increase when students start studying. In extreme cases  symptoms of exam phobia can be easily observed and addressed.

 To know whether exam phobia is a barrier to good grades, you need to recognise the symptoms. Simple fear of exams is ordinary  and is not exam phobia. These are some clear symptoms of exam phobia.

• Having nightmares.
• Feeling over stressed with studies and worried about examinations/results.
• Feelings of anger and inability to concentrate on studies.
• Loss of appetite.
• Dry throat.
• Oversleeping.
• Becoming addicted to television or games.
• Increase in heart rate.
• Breathing difficulty.
• Sweating, trembling and cold limbs.
• Suffering from abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting and sometimes diarrhea.
• Becoming a victim of frequent urination.
• Avoiding schools.

But what are the root causes of exam phobia?  here is some common reasons behind exam phobia.

• Students are scared of exams because they know they are not prepared for them.
• They underestimate themselves.
• They are too scared about their future.
• Their friends have negative influence; some lack confidence and others are over confident.
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To avoid exam phobia, studying is the only option. A proper study schedule can help students to complete their syllabus in time. Confidence is another important factor. If students can finish their syllabus before exams, confidence will increase.

There also needs to be proper sleep, food and break intervals from study for good preparation. Eat healthy and balanced meals and no matter the temptation do not go for energy drinks (they make you hyperactive, not focused), oily foods, caffeine etc. Check all the accessories you need for your examination.

Start for your exams a bit earlier and after entering the exam hall take a long breath. It will help you to control your nerves. Don’t talk with your friends about your preparation too much before the exams and also no need to share about your answer paper after the examination. Always try to think about your present, not the future. If you can start all these practices, you will able to reduce your exam phobia.

Nothing is impossible and exams are far from it. It becomes impossible or problematic when we fail to identify the root of our problems. Before falling prey to this phobia, try to find the root of your problems. A solution is always there.

3 Mistakes Successful People Don't Make

Mistake No. 1: Following the trends.

Mistake No. 2: Refusing to take responsibility.

Mistake No. 3: Trying to go it alone. 

"PROUD TO BE AN INDIAN." Ravi Kemwal

Let the world know what we stand for.
There are 3.22 Million Indians in America.
38% of Doctors in America are Indians.
12% of Scientists in America are Indians.
36% of NASA employees are Indians.
34% of MICROSOFT employees are Indians.
28% of IBM employees are Indians.
17% of INTEL employees are Indians.
13% of XEROX employees are Indians.
You may know some of these facts. These
facts were recently published in a German
Magazine, which deals with
WORLD HISTORY FACTS ABOUT INDIA.

India never invaded any country in her last
100000 years of history.
India invented the Number System.
Aryabhatta invented zero.
The World's first university was established in
Takshila in 700BC.More than 10,500 students from
all over the world studied more than 60 subjects. The
University of Nalanda built in the 4th century BC
was one of the greatest achievements of ancient India
in the field of education.
Sanskrit is the mother of all the European
languages. Sanskrit is the most suitable language
for computer software reported in Forbes magazine,
July 1987.

Ayurveda is the earliest school of medicine
known to humans. Charaka, the father of medicine
consolidated Ayurveda 2500 years ago. Today
Ayurveda is fast regaining its rightful place
in our civilization.
Although modern images of India often show
poverty and lack of development, India was the
richest country on earth until the time of
British invasion in the early 17th Century.
The art of Navigation was born in the river
Sindh 6000 years ago.
The very word Navigation is derived from
the Sanskrit word NAVGATIH.
The Word navy is also derived from Sanskrit 'Nou'.

Bhaskaracharya calculated the time taken by the
earth to orbit the sun hundreds of years before the
astronomer Smart.; Time taken by earth to orbit
the sun: (5th century) 365.258756484 days.
Budhayana first calculated the value of pi, and
he explained the concept of what is known as the
Pythagorean Theorem. He discovered this in the
6th century long before the European mathematicians
Algebra, trigonometry and calculus came from
India; Quadratic equations were by Sridharacharya in the
11th century ; The largest numbers the
Greeks and the Romans
used were 10 6(10 to the power of 6) whereas
Hindus Used numbers as big as 1053 (10 to the
power of 53) with specific names as Early as 5000 BCE
during the Vedic period. Even today, the largest
used number is Tera 1012(10 to the power of 12).

According to the Gemological Institute of
America, up until 1896,India was the only source for
diamonds to the world.
USA based IEEE has proved what has been a
century-old suspicion in the world scientifi
community that the pioneer of Wireless
communication was Prof. Jagdeesh Bose and not Marconi.

The earliest reservoir and dam for irrigation was
built in Saurashtra. According to Saka King
rudradaman I of 150 CE a beautiful lake
called 'Sudarshana'
was constructed on the hills of Raivataka during
Chandragupta Maurya's time.

Chess (Shataranja or AshtaPada) was invented in India.

Sushruta is the father of surgery. 2600
years ago he and health scientists of his time
conducted complicated surgeries like cesareans,
cataract, artificial limbs, fractures, urinary
stones and even plastic surgery and brain surgery. Usage
of anesthesia was well known in ancient India.
Over 125 surgical equipment were used. Deep
knowledge of anatomy, etiology, embryology, digestion,
metabolism, genetics and immunity is also found
in many texts.

When many cultures were only nomadic forest
dwellers over 5000 years ago, Indians
established Harappan culture in Sindhu
Valley (Indus Valley Civilization)
The place value system, the decimal system
was developed in India in 100 BC.

QUOTES ABOUT INDIA:

Albert Einstein said: We owe a lot to the
Indians, who taught us how to count, without
which no worthwhile scientific discovery could
have been made.
Mark Twain said: India is the cradle of the
human race, the birthplace of human speech, the mother
of history, the grandmother of legend, and the great
grand mother of tradition. Our most valuable and most
structive materials in the history of man are treasured
up in India only.
French scholar Romain Rolland said: If there is
one place on the face of earth where all
the dreams of living men have found a home from
the very earliest days when man began the dream
of existence, it is India.
Hu Shih, former Ambassador of China to USA said:
India conquered And dominated China culturally
for 20 centuries without ever having to send a single
soldier across her border.
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All the above is just the TIP of the iceberg, the
list could be endless. BUT, if we don't see even a
glimpse of that great India in the India That we see
today, it
clearly means that we are not working up to our
Potential and that if we do, we could once
again; be an ever shining and Inspiring country
setting a bright path for rest of the world to follow.
I Hope you enjoyed it and work towards the welfare
of INDIA. PROUD to be an INDIAN.

Top 10 flirting tips...

10. Flirting is all about attitude. A good flirt is self-confident and not afraid to take risks. Be enthusiastic, open and positive. It works!

9. Start a conversation. The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about the surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, make a joke, state an opinion. Make sure you are calm and composed but just do it before the person you've got your eye on walks out of the bar or passed you in the street, never to be seen again!

8. Have fun. Be playful, light-hearted and spontaneous. Show your vulnerability.

7. Use props. Never leave home without a prop. Props are natural conversation starters. They encourage conversation and others will be compelled to start talking to you. Great props include: dogs, kids, unusual jewelry, a fabulous scent, a distinctive bag from your favorite store or an interesting book or newspaper.

6. Be the host. Change your behavior from the role of guest to host. You are not the passive person in waiting, but rather the welcome committee.

5. Make the first move. Move closer to the person you want to meet. Say hello! You can move closer to your perfect match online right now by contacting your perfect match for free.

4. Listen. You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak. Listening is a true art. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you. Everyone loves to be heard.

3. Eye contact. Make eye contact, but please look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then glance away. Don't stare – it's a turn off.

2. Compliment. Compliment your flirting partner. The best compliments have the element of surprise. The "flirtee" will know that you really noticed them. Remember, your compliments must be honest, sincere and genuine. When you receive a compliment the best response is merely to say Thank You!

1. Smile. It is contagious. It will make you so much more approachable. A smile lights up your face and draws people to you. You will be a people magnet. Try it!

A Butterfly Story. By Ravinder Singh

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening .appeared; he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.

Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time.

Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly. To get through the tiny opening were nature’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings, so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If nature allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly..

Baba RamDev Is Real Indian of our Nation...By Ravi Kemwal

At the Ramilia Ground in New Delhi, Baba Ramdev started Satyagraha...
This is all for back Black Money must take back in our country & declare National Wealth!!

But Today as order by Congress (Not by Govt.) they arrested Baba Ramdev...
Our Minister Mr. Digvijay Singh statement "Ramdev is a fraud...He collected money by wrong way..."

But this is Just shocking...
Following Questions till in Common people mind...
1. How Congress wake up now after he started Satyagraha for Baba's Tax ... ?
2. Raja (2G) ,Kanimozhi (2G), Kalmadi(CWG),Delhi Govt.(CWG), Ashok Chavan(Aadarsh), Vilas Deshmukh(Aadarsh), Sharad Pawar(Krishi),Ajit Pawar(State Bank) till in Govt. & around no action on them???? (bcz they related to Congress).
3. Digvijay asking Baba's welth, but what about Black Money?
4. Why they take meeting in 5 Star, If Baba is Correpted?
5. Why they oppose Lokpal Vidhayak?
6. Why they oppose JPC?
7. Why they hike petrol prices after 5 State results?

& lots off Question till standing but Congress diverting common man towards to Baba's corruption..

First Clean your own home then ask to other.. This is advise of common man to Congress...

Sequel Step: Rajinikanth's 'Robot 2' On Anvil?

Rajinikanth fans have a reason to rejoice. Even as the ailing and recovering supericon's health buzzes the mediavine, there is fresh news that director Shankar is all set to serve up the sequel to Robot / Endhiran after he wraps up the filming of the Tamil Telugu remake of 3 Idiots.

Confirming this development, V. Srinivas Mohan, who pencilled in his third National award for Robot states in a media quote that "Shankar Sir is busy at the moment, but after he finishes shooting his 3 Idiots remake, we will speak about it and Rajni Sir will be back too, when Robot returns."

Incidentally, Shankar had partially shot Robot a decade ago, with Kamal Haasan and Preity Zinta. Though the mantle of Robot greatness for destined for Rajinikanth, as time proved.
Guess, a certain Aishwarya Rai Bachchan might be elated too…